Most good things happen without a plan: friendships, falling in love, finding a job, and so on. If you want to make your new year count, you’ll need to be intentional — not by setting goals, but by making space in your life for what really matters. -Jeff Goins
I thought this was a good quote to incorporate into the blog, as this was started as somewhat of a New Year’s resolution and at one point, almost became a bucket list. As I read this over a few times, it really resonated with me. Anyone can make goals and lists of things they want to do – you need to create the space in your life to follow through. I thought I would use it as a launching point for this post, as well as a reminder that in order to experience the things most meaningful to me, I have to continue to make the time.
I wanted to experience some great things during my 28th year. I didn’t know what they might be or what I was setting out to do specifically, but I just want it to be the best year of my life so far. This would mean trying some new things, putting in the effort to make things happen and most importantly, creating the time. What really matters in my life pretty much falls into these buckets: love/relationships (family, friends, romance), happiness (what am I experiencing that brings me joy or what can I do to bemore happy) and education/experiences (how am I growing/changing, what am I doing to make that happen). Anything that falls into these categories, needs to have priority in my life and I need to remember to make the space and time for them.
Creating time for these things in your life can mean making sacrifices. We are all juggling 1,000 responsibilities and obligations, and it can be hard to remember what we NEED to be doing to fill up our own individual buckets. Instead of going out and boozing with friends on a Friday night, I have to stay home and rest up for a crazy Color Run at 5am on a Saturday. Maybe I don’t go to the gym one night because I haven’t seen my best friend in weeks and she wants to grab dinner. In the end, if it’s worth it, it’s not a sacrifice. If it enriched my life in a way that I consider meaningful, then it was time well spent.
One of my best friends and I were talking a month or so ago about how easy it becomes to weed out your true friends and significant others based on the issue of time. It’s not a matter of how much physical time you always get to spend with someone, but the effort on both parties to make time to connect. I’m an avid believer that if you want it bad enough, you find a way and find the time. Perhaps you have to stay up an hour later than normal to hang out. You’re a little tired in the morning, but the conversation and wine were flowing the night before and that…that moment was worth it.
Maybe you have to connect digitally. In this day when technology has us connected in a hundred different ways, there’s almost no excuse for not making the time, especially for people. Take two minutes to send a quick email… shoot a photo of what you’re doing and send it to your mom…find the perfect e-card to send to your friend having a rough day….text your significant other the moment in the day when you think of him/her. Don’t forget the power that reaching out can have, even if it isn’t face to face. It’s a reminder that you are cared about and care about someone…that someone does care enough to take a few minutes out of their day to remind you of your importance in their life.
The best thing is when you get to have a really great experience WITH someone you really care about. In my mind, those are the best. I’m lucky this year has been so full of these opportunities thus far, and I’m appreciating my goal to capitalize on every one. I have created some of the best memories this way and I think THAT is what is helping make this year so great for me.
What I’ve realized is at the end of the day, if you don’t make time for that person/experience/situation/feeling, then it probably isn’t a priority and therefore shouldn’t suck up the available space you do have for something that matters.